Monday, March 30, 2009

It's not all bad

It seems like ever since I announced that I was pregnant, all my blog entries have been focused on complaining. While it certainly has been no walk in the park, it’s not all bad, and I realize that there are plenty of people out there in situations much worse off than mine.

The past weekend, Rob was gone for a cycling training camp, and to keep me from being too lonely, my parents (Rick and Nan) came for a brief visit on Saturday. My mom even went with me to this month’s neighborhood coffee, and she got to meet all the ladies of Vermont Avenue. I think she was duly impressed with them. My being pregnant is kind of a big deal on this block—most of the women are in their 60’s or older, so it’s been a long time since any of the neighbors were pregnant, and everybody is excited for me. I love hearing all the ladies tell their stories of their own pregnancies, their children, their grandchildren. Many of these women have had amazing careers as well—in a time when being a working mother was comparatively rare across the country. It’s really pretty inspiring for me to spend a morning with the ladies on my block.

In addition to getting to show off my mother at the party, I also found myself brave enough to try a little decaf coffee—for the first time since Christmas. Coffee has been one of those things that the sight of, smell of, even the thought of, makes me feel like I’m going to wretch. The coffee I had on Saturday didn’t taste quite like it did to me in my pre-pregnancy days (most things haven’t tasted quite right since Fig has been present), but it was still really comforting to try it again.

My mom and dad brought me a bouquet of irises, my favorite flowers. The next morning—when I awoke to snow on the ground—it was nice to see the flowers while snow swirled outside.


Another positive thing to note is that by now (19 weeks), I am pretty sure I have felt Fig moving around. Other women have described it as feeling like butterflies or popcorn popping or even gas, but to me, it feels more like a muscle twinge. Kind of like the pinging you might feel in your legs after a long walk/run/bike ride (or is it just me that gets that?) I’d actually felt this abdominal pinging for a while and thought that it was really was just a type of muscle twinge—resulting from organs shifting around or expanding. And maybe it partially is. But I’ve realized that there are some distinctive thumps and taps, and I have decided to conclude that this is Fig. Once after I had gotten home from a walk and was resting on the couch, I felt a thump, thump, thump, and I actually laughed out loud—just picturing Fig taking his or her little arm and smacking the wall of my uterus as if to say, “Hey mom, why did you stop walking all of a sudden?”

I’m not sure if one semi-happy post can counteract all the nausea-induced gloom and doom posts I’ve been writing, but at least it’s a start. Hopefully there are more to come. Thanks for reading.


Anonymous said...

I laughed also,about picturing Fig, wanting you to KEEP WALKING !!! and ya know what.??? AFTER fig arrives, anytime YOU MIGHT sit down,,,,,, Fig will come find you and want you to DO SOMETHING-- so get used to it!!!!:) Happy your iris's opened up on the 'SNOWY day' to brighten your mood!!!!! I had a super time with you at the coffee and enjoyed meeting your nice neighbors......Thanks for inviting me, maybe I should 'start' one here/?? hmmmmm.-- maybe we're all TOO OLD.. :) hang in there, GOOD LUCK thursday!! be thinking of you.. be sure to drink lots of water and stay hydrated!!! luv you foxymama

Anonymous said...

I remember with my first pregancy, I never knew I was feeling the movement of my baby either. After you realize what it is, you kinda just wait for it to happen again. It is GOOD to hear that you must be feeling 'somewhat' better? The flowers looked beautiful, and how sweet of you to visit with older women and actually enjoy it. It gives us all hope, that we are not to boring!!! Good luck as you forge on through your pregancy. We are all waiting anxiously to meet fig.

Anonymous said...

I think I need to proofread my blogs. I REALLY do know how to spell pregnancy??????? THAT IS RIGHT, ISN'T IT??????????????

Anonymous said...

It certainly sounds like the ole Melissa is on her way back...Keep it up Fig! If that's what makes your mom smile then keep kicking her!

Anonymous said...

I don't think you've been complaining ... just truthful ... and I love your 'block' ladies who gather together for no other reason than just to gather together... and I love that you're included and enjoy them ... and I love that your mom got to go with you and meet them ... and i LOVE to think of Fig tap tap tapping if for no other reason than just to tap tap tap!!! hugs, auntie

amypfan said...

Love the irises. Oh, and I forgot to say that you were quite adorable in the picture at the end of your last post. :)